So what exactly does a Neutral Coach contribute to the Collaborative divorce process??

Mary-Jane-Harmless-thumbI find my role as a ‘Neutral’ party in the process as one that invites the divorcing couple, in a safe environment, to share creative problem-solving ideas around the important issues that the court requires they come to decisions about, particularly as regards their children and planning for their future. As a ‘Coach’ I have the rare opportunity to help them translate sometimes divergent ideas and emotions into thoughtful information that can be translated into a Parenting Plan for their children’s future, as well as help them communicate individual goals and interests to be addressed through the legal and financial support of their other Collaborative Team members……not to mention that as a mental health professional the Coach comes to the process well equipped with all kinds of resources for the divorcing couple and their children to help them through the questions and concerns that naturally emerge during and after the divorce process.

I find that when the Coach coordinates communication between the couple and Team members, by writing up and sharing relevant information from group meetings, it helps all parties involved remain on the same page, so to speak, throughout. The Coach is also available for problem-solving with clients those issues that sometimes may hinder or delay the process. It has, in fact, been my experience that coaching actually helps keep the overall costs of the divorce process down by assisting the couple to utilize the specific expertise of their Team members more effectively and efficiently. It’s kind of like having a little ‘task-master’ nudging the process forward at a pace that works for the couple.

It is a role that fits my particular philosophy of divorce as a ‘transition’ and one that I hope more couples will consider when finding themselves facing the challenges of divorce.

Mary Jane Harmless, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist
Collaborative Neutral Coach

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About the Author:

Mary Jane Harmless
Therapist, offering individual, marital and family counseling; to reduce distress, improve functioning and increase life/relationship satisfaction. Coach, providing personal, career and dispute resolution coaching. Educator, offering seminars, classes and public forums in community, corporate and academic settings. Consultant to local law firms regarding cases involving questions of a behavioral or psychological nature. Facilitator for CASA Kids Voice Program, offered to separated and divorcing parents. Corporate experience in the fields of design, mental health and corrections. Management, overseeing staff and operations of 3 psychiatric residential facilities. Clinical Supervisor for Counselors and Psychologists in Training. Assessment, of intellectual, cognitive and personality functioning. Group Facilitator, around issues of depression, parenting, social skills, stress management. Editor for professional training manuals. ***Sample Topics (classes, seminars, forums): Learned Optimism, Stress Management, Raising Resilient Children, School Bullying and Violence, Parenting, Co-Parenting and Blending Families, Effective Anger Management for Youth, Taking Care of Self: Preventing Employee Burnout, Embracing Cultural Diversity in the Workplace, Recognizing and Preventing Hostile Work Environments.

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